Healing Difficult Parent-Adult Child Relationships with IFS & EMDR Therapy in California
Breaking Cycles and Healing Relationships
You may be a capable adult — yet find yourself stuck in a difficult relationship with your parent. If you’re the adult child of an emotionally immature or controlling parent, it can leave lasting wounds that show up in how you feel about yourself, how you connect with others, and how you handle conflict.
And if you’re a parent yourself, you may feel a deep desire to break painful cycles — yet find that the past still echoes in your present.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) and EMDR therapy offer powerful ways to help you heal from early relational wounds and create more ease, confidence, and freedom — both within yourself and in your family relationships today.
Does This Sound Familiar?
You take on so many different roles that you find yourself bending every which way to fit into everyone else’s expectations of you?
You find yourself constantly running on empty.
You cringe at confrontation, disapproval, or judgment, making it difficult to speak up.
You’ve been losing your temper with those closest to you, alternately feeling irritated and just plain drained.
You give and give, and you wonder who is showing up for you?
You prioritize others' needs over your own and go along with things out of concern about rocking the boat
You struggle to say no, feeling uneasy if someone doesn’t like you or when you can’t seem to make others happy.
Now you’re caught in a cycle of exhaustion and resentment, back-pedaling to repair perceived damage done.
These patterns may run deep — but they don’t have to define you or your family. Healing is possible.
Reconnect and Heal: Transforming the Adult Child–Parent Relationship
Parent Perspective
You feel hurt or confused when your adult child pulls away.
You may feel blamed for past mistakes but you’re unsure how to repair the relationship.
Attempts to connect are met with resistance or emotional distance.
You want a closer bond but don’t know how to move forward without triggering conflict.
Transform Your Relationship
It's never too late to grow. With openness, humility, and curiosity, you can begin to rebuild trust and repair emotional wounds — even one small, honest conversation at a time.
Adult Child Perspective
You oscillate between longing for closeness and needing distance.
You’ve internalized a belief that your needs are “too much” or not important.
Conversations with your parent often leave you feeling unseen, judged, or emotionally drained.
Attempts to be vulnerable lead to defensiveness or blame.
Break the Cycle
You can learn to validate your own emotions, set boundaries with confidence, and build relationships based on mutual respect — even if your parent never changes. Healing begins with you.
Healing Generational Wounds, One Step at a Time
Whether you're an adult child or a parent, it's never too late to set healthier boundaries and reclaim your emotional well-being. I'm here to support your healing.
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